Last night I was researching stories about women who have gone missing. One of the things that bothers me is that most of these stories are so similar: Sweet Miss Jane goes on date/sees a friend/has a drink at the local bar and never comes back. Sometimes it’s more complicated like the case of Brenda Heist, the mother who ran away from her family because she felt overwhelmed by life’s troubles. Why don’t more women disappear because of business deals gone bad or links to organized crime?
My guess is that women don’t have the financial or organizational power to suffer interesting deaths and disappearances. I couldn’t find any news stories remotely like that. That speaks volumes, but it’s another subject.
Anyway, as I surfed the Internet, I came across Kelly Dwyer. She disappeared in Milwaukee on October 11, 2013 after a night of partying with her boyfriend Kris Zocco. While not formally charged with her disappearance, he’s currently out on bail for charges of child pornography and drug violations. Her poor family. It’s bad enough losing your daughter, but to find out her boyfriend was watching videos of 3-year-old children being sexually violated?
After I scrubbed my brain with a little spiritual Comet, I continued my research.
This morning Mandy Stadtmiller, the editor of XOJane, Tweeted:
— Mandy Stadtmiller (@mandystadt) January 17, 2014
I love the picture of her with the dog, but it doesn’t really show her face. So, I put her name into the Google image search and found this better photo.
Okay, so, this is just a coincidence, right? Or do the fashionable sociopaths have a “look” they go for that’s in style? I’m sure these two cases aren’t related, even though they took place within a couple months of each other. They are in two totally different geographic regions. Also, Heather is Jesus and Apple Pie compared to Kelly and her boyfriend. The two women might have met similar fates, but it wasn’t because they had similar lifestyles.
My heart goes out to the families of these two women. May they be found and justice be served.
ETA: Here’s another set of cross-state cases about missing blondes that detectives do believe are related.